WHAT TO EXPECT
IN YOUR READING
Can you summon the loved one I am hoping to connect with?
If you are wishing to connect with someone who is passed it is helpful
to think about the person or people in the spirit world before a
reading. Thought is energy. Love is energy. The spirit world can sense
your energy, and this can help to raise the vibration and make stronger
connections possible.
If you are looking to connect with one specific individual in the
spirit world, I cannot guarantee that they will "show up" in a reading
though they usually do. As a medium, I cannot call "1-800 Dial The
Dead" to come and talk. To understand this better think of the process
of mediumship like two telephones. The telephone in the spirit world
has a dial, and the telephone here in the physical world is only a
receiver without any dial. I can only receive the communication that
the spirit world is willing to send at that given time based on their
own free will. The more open-minded and open-hearted you are the
clearer the messages will be for you.
I would appreciate that people DO NOT send emails saying with whom it
is you wish to communicate, and giving all the pertinent details about
that loved one. It's my job to tell you who it is that comes through in
the reading, to give you the authenticity and validation that it is,
indeed, a loved one of yours. This is the way I work. The less I know
about your loved one the better it is for me to remain objective in
order for the messages to flow as they should and to be sure that you
did not influence me in any way. If I ask you, "Does this make sense? Do
Please have patience during a reading. I know that you are eager to
connect with your loved ones but sometimes other spirits come through
as well, such as other family members (whether you knew them well or
barely knew them), friends, a co-worker, and our beloved pets, before
the person with whom you are looking to communicate.
Each spirit's message is just as important as any other's. Sometimes it
is to make peace with someone they had issues with, and they come to
ask for forgiveness; and other times it's to let "living people" know
that they are okay.
Please allow those other spirits the time to connect with you as well.
They may have a message for you, another family member, friend,
neighbor or co-worker that can be very healing to the person you relay
the message to. It is an effort for the spirit to communicate, and
their effort needs to be acknowledged and respected. The only thing I
ask is that you participate in the reading by responding if the
information is accurate. The best way to have a successful reading is
by remaining positive so you can have an evidential and enlightening
experience.
Can you do a reading by telephone, and is it accurate?
Yes, I have done thousands of readings by telephone all over the world
in the past decade, and they are just as accurate as if you were
getting the reading in person. The best way I can explain how telephone
readings work is simple: It's like being on a 3-way phone call between
with you, me, and your loved ones. The spirit of your loved one becomes
omnipresent, like God (meaning it is everywhere at once),
so spirits can make contact and communicate anywhere, at any time, for
there is no time or space to connect with us.
All spirits communicate by telepathy. For me, it's thoughts and
feelings, so when I hear them it's in my heart (not my ears), and when
I see them it's in my mind's eye (like watching a movie). Also, the
time of someone's passing -- whether it's days, months, or years --
have no effect on my ability to communicate with them. However, I do
recommend that someone not contact me within the first week of a loved
one's passing.
Are our loved ones with us all the time?
I always tell my clients that, as with the physical world, your loved
ones are not with you twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, but
they are often there when you need them most. People should realize how
much energy it takes for those who have passed to lower their vibration
and make a connection to this physical realm. I believe they are doing
their own learning over there, and we are always growing and
progressing. You can help them by learning to increase and raise your
awareness, and in so doing it will assist you in meeting them halfway.
I will say that our personal guardian angels and guides are always
looking after us and guiding us on our journey.
Your loved ones on the other side share in your life here, and often in
my readings spirits will acknowledge being around my clients during
difficult times, lending their support and strength. Of course they
don't visit just during difficult times. Very often they will confirm
and give evidence that they were present to see their child get married
or the birth of a new baby. Holidays and special occasions are also big
for them, as they want to see us happy.
Can they help us from the other side?
Our loved ones do assist us with love, support, insight, and guidance.
They do, in fact, help us in more ways than we even realize.
Some clients expect their loved ones in Heaven to "fix" their life and
being that we all have life lessons to learn and experience, no loved
one can "fix" anything for you as much as maybe they would like to.
Even if they always told you what to do with your life while they were
alive, which in hindsight can be spiritually debilitating, they won't
in the spirit world, due to free will. We are the only ones responsible
for our lives. It's not a loved one's job to tell you what to do or to
do it for you. You have to make your own decisions and take
responsibility for your choices and actions. They can not interfere
with those lessons that assist us in our soul's growth.
How do Spirits appear to you as a Medium, and do you get names?
Every time I link with a spirit they appear to be exactly the same as
they did here. People seem to think that when we pass we somehow turn
into this exalted being. They have the same personality and quirks,
whether it is upbeat, humorous, strict or relaxed. It means a lot to my
clients when I blend with their loved ones and start to describe and
even act out some of their personalities, or occasionally their
personal mannerisms.
I do, in fact, see what many of the spirits look like, but some spirits
I just hear and feel. Some of them do give me their names, and others
don't. They will mention names of other loved ones that are either
living or deceased. To many spirits, their name is just a word that
they related to for identity in this world. Picture introducing
yourself to someone by your social security number. How confusing would
that be? Think of it this way: The Source that we call God has many
names, yet responds to them all. It's easier for a spirit to show me
"The Statue Of Liberty" to let me know they are from New York City or
�Big Ben� London ect ect
Again, it's their personalities and their words that are the most
identifiable for validation. It takes so much energy for them to lower
their vibration to communicate with us that in my case as a Medium for
them, they are more interested in getting their messages of importance
to you than they are in trivial matters such as what they bought you
when you were a child. The best way to have a meaningful reading is to
take into account what is said and valid over something that is not
mentioned. Spirits have as much free will as you and I do, and I can't
make any spirit tell me something they choose not to communicate about.
I do hope you find this helpful!
Tim.
